Ask Myisha: What vibrator should I use? transcript

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Okay, let's move on to our next question. This one comes from a woman who's never used a vibrator, but thinks it's time to buy her first one. I'll read this question. I'm 67 years old, and I've never done any significant masturbation or used a vibrator. None of that was encouraged when I was growing up. I'd like to enhance my libido and I'm wondering if you can recommend what kind of vibrator I should purchase? I don't have a clue. Yes, I have many recommendations. The first one might be familiar to you because it is the classic go-to gold star standard of vibrators, and that is the magic wand. The magic wand is truly truly magical. And I do think that it's a great starter vibrator for most people with vulvas. The reason being is that you can try out different vibrations. It's specifically a clitoral vibrator. So some folks find the more phallic vibrators a little off putting this is something that was marketed as a back massager. And then of course, people discovered other places where this felt good on their bodies. But yeah, that's one area where I would I would suggest exploring, there are a number of options of magic wands these days. So the old school ones, you actually have to plug into the wall and they're really really intense vibration wise. And they typically only have the on off setting. Nowadays you can buy one that is chargeable and that has an option to kind of increase intensity, either with you know, a number system of you know how intense you want it or you can actually turn a dial to like up the vibration. Some people actually find the intensity of magic wands to be too much. So if you are feeling overwhelmed, even at the lowest setting of the magic wand that you get, you can actually dampen that sensation with a towel. And that can feel really good also. So yeah, that's like a great first place to start. And the reason that I go there to like this classic model is my mind goes to Betty Dodson's bodysex workshops, where she helped women learn how to orgasm through the use of a vibrator. These were classes that Betty taught in a group setting that allowed women to use a magic wand of their own and practice what's called "rock and roll", which is her technique, Betty Dodson's technique, of helping women to experience orgasm. So for someone who is new to masturbation, it can feel good to just have a few steps to take to incorporate your vibrator into your masturbation practice, because it can be overwhelming to try something like this for the first time. I think that the rock and roll technique is great. Essentially you're going to be kind of grinding on the vibrator. So holding the vibrator still while you move your hips and your pelvis up and down against the bulbous part of the vibrator. And this is meant to simulate what your body would naturally do if you were super turned on and with a partner. But you can do this yourself and women all over the world who have gone through these workshops have, you know, found a lot of pleasure and satisfaction and learning how to masturbate with a vibrator in this way. So I hope that that is helpful for you. If you look at the magic wand and you're like hell no, I highly recommend looking at something that is specifically a clitoral vibrator. Maybe you want something on the smaller side or maybe something that doesn't even look like a vibrator at all. I like my vibrators to be objets and I like to look at pleasurable things. So I highly recommend the TENGA iroha line. These look like cuddly, fluffy, little objects that you know I've been at TSA and someone has picked it up out of my bag and squeezed it and said 'This is adorable. What is this?' and I say 'it's a vibrator' and then her face just totally dropped. And I was like yeah, maybe you don't touch people's things. True story. So you know it's up to you! Go with the classic model or maybe try something that is a little bit more designy and small and compact. There are tons of things on the market now, designed specifically for vulva havers and that wasn't always the case. So I really, I'm like, kind of jealous that you're getting to explore at this time for the first time.